PART 14 TEACHER CHUKS 3
©️Opeyemi Ojerinde Akintunde
Favour was not planning on bending her rule. She felt we were all indulging Mercy. At first, she reluctantly agreed for us to post our own bit without her talk, but all of a sudden she vehemently told us that we shouldn’t send it at all.
We didn’t post the video anymore and I tried to move on with my life. She was Mercy’s mother after all and possibly knew the best approach in raising her child. We didn’t hear from Mercy either. No one saw her in school.
Favour had insulted me out of anger when I tried persuading her to join us in calling Mercy back…
“What do you know about raising children? You have never raised one, so don’t pretend like you know jack about it,” she had said.
That pierced my heart badly and I decided to let her be.
However, the incident had made me realize that the teens and young adults were highly talented and with the help of God, I could bring out something great from them.
“Like I have been saying to you all for a while, if you don’t want to invest your time in the wrong things, you need to start investing your time in the right things. Now is not the time to invest in boyfriends and girlfriends. The time for that will come. That time is not far away, but now is the time to build yourself, so that when the time comes to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you will be an asset to whoever is fortunate to have you as their partner. Therefore I want you all to write out your hobbies and talents with your names on individual sheets of paper, also write what you feel has been limiting you from using your potential to the fullest. The ladies should submit to Ajaara, while the boys, to Kenneth,” I had told them.
By the time I sat down to go through their list in the hour of the night, I was dazed at the list of potentials ranging from drawing, writing, sculpturing, singing, spoken words, creative art, rapping, painting, calligraphy, photography, dancing, acrobatics, skating, running, swimming etc.
The limitations were not much. In fact, it was almost the same…Pornography, masturbation, sex addiction, stealing, drinking, smoking and lack of parental guidance. Some of them had even started taking hard drugs. From their write-ups, they pointed out they wanted out of these addictions.
“Hmm… I think it is high time I went back to Baba Agba and asked him about the way out of masturbation, at least that knowledge can help with helping these teenagers.” I concluded in my heart as I saw that as one of the challenges of the young ones.
“First, the person must find a good company. It is this company that will show him / her love and acceptance. This company must be a sympathetic group not a group that will condemn him / her. Meaning, this person should find a firebrand church and open up to the pastor in charge or the minister. A female minister for a female victim; a male minister for a male victim. For instance, what the Lord is using you to build right now is a community. So, I can say these kids have taken the first step towards their deliverance from masturbation, because you have started sowing seeds of the word of God which will grow to a mighty tree in their lives. It is actually the absence of the Presence of God in their lives that is giving room to all these sexual sins in their lives.
Tell them to feed themselves with the word of God, which they can start by reading a verse per day. Little drops make an ocean. A verse of the Bible per day is a great start.”
“Point taken, first step was finding the right company which could be a Church, or a Christian group where such a person could be accountable to someone and grow spiritually.” I reasoned silently as I took note.
“Because, masturbation or any form of sexual slavery is not something to be silent about. One needs to voice it out if they want to be out of it. Sexual slavery is not a battle to fight on your own. Tell the young ones not to be ashamed, but speak out and let the devil be ashamed instead. Let them take this sexual slavery as a sickness or ailment. When a person has fever, are they silent about it?” Baba asked still on the first step and I shook my head in the negative.
“It is by connecting to spiritual people that he/she will receive deliverance, because sin is like onions, the closer you draw to God, the more you remove each layer of the quest for sin that has been deeply rooted in you.
Let them know the truth that they can’t be delivered in one day. It is their consistency in saying no to the sexual slavery that delivers them in the long run.
Let them know that if they decide to stop today, the temptation to go back to the sexual addiction or any other kind of sin will be the strongest on that day, but they need to fight it through, and with God’s help, they will prevail.
Let them know life is a fight. They must fight against masturbation, pornography or other sexual sins.
They must fight with the mind to win, because the ultimate plan of these sexual sins is to destroy them. Therefore, if they do not stop and destroy the sexual sin, the sexual sin will stop and destroy them.
So once again, let them know, that the temptation will return every two weeks, but the more they overcome by fighting the battle everyday as it comes; with determination; the constant infilling of the word of God and continuous stay among the good and right company; over time, the addiction will disappear completely.
Note that as their minister, you need to constantly check on them and ask about their struggles. Their responsibility is to remain open and truthful to you so that whenever, they fall, you can help them rise again.”
“Hmmm…” I said as those words were deep.
Secondly, the victim will have to….
To be continued.