So, IS THIS ME?
At every stage of the human life, one is confronted with that rhetorical question either consciously or unconsciously.
There are times you just look at yourself and ask, nah me be this?
And that question comes with a reason I must say!
When you look at yourself and consider the target you set since the beginning of this year, month or week, what will be your assessment? Have you achieved the targets, are you on your way in achieving the targets or the targets are not just working out? Be truthful to yourself tonight, that’s the first point in becoming better.
Yes, this is a seminar but we can’t do anything without the word of God, so let’s quickly look at our text for tonight
Ecclesiastes 1: 2-11
Ecclesiastes 2:2 I said of laughter, It is mad: and of mirth, What doeth it? 2:3 I sought in mine heart to give myself unto wine, yet acquainting mine heart with wisdom; and to lay hold on folly, till I might see what was that good for the sons of men, which they should do under the heaven all the days of their life. 2:4 I made me great works; I builded me houses; I planted me vineyards: 2:5 I made me gardens and orchards, and I planted trees in them of all kind of fruits: 2:6 I made me pools of water, to water therewith the wood that bringeth forth trees: 2:7 I got me servants and maidens, and had servants born in my house; also I had great possessions of great and small cattle above all that were in Jerusalem before me: 2:8 I gathered me also silver and gold, and the peculiar treasure of kings and of the provinces: I gat me men singers and women singers, and the delights of the sons of men, as musical instruments, and that of all sorts. 2:9 So I was great, and increased more than all that were before me in Jerusalem: also my wisdom remained with me. 2:10 And whatsoever mine eyes desired I kept not from them, I withheld not my heart from any joy; for my heart rejoiced in all my labour: and this was my portion of all my labour. 2:11 Then I looked on all the works that my hands had wrought, and on the labour that I had laboured to do: and, behold, all was vanity and vexation of spirit, and there was no profit under the sun.
Please take your time and go through the text.
The text summarizes the whole earthly activities of man, struggle!
Night and day man is struggling, trying to build a name, trying to get a title, to be successful, to be know, to live comfortable at least. Many are so stressed out and that’s the reason they become silent participants during seminars and bible study. All in the name of struggle. I want to build a career, I want to be great, I want to make a name. I want, I want, I want
But hey, what happens when your ‘I want’ becomes ‘I wanted’?
Do we understand what I mean by that?
I want is when you set the targets, I wanted is when the targets are not realized.
These targets could be spiritual, academical, financial, material or emotional.
I want you all to ask yourself, Is This Me?
This question can be analyze from two different perspective depending on the condition of the individual who asked it, I’ll group the two types into positive and negative.
Positive aspect of ‘Is This Me’
This is a point where you look at your life, analyze where you are now and where you used to be, and you discover there’s been good and tremendous changes.
For example, last year I had a fluctuating relationship with God that I could hardly hear you speak to me but this year, I’ve not missed my communion with Him, in fact, I hear His voice clearly and directly. Now, this makes you look at yourself and you’re proud of the Christian you are now to the point you can’t believe how far you’ve achieved in such a short time and then you ask yourself, is it me?
Another example, almost everyday makes plans and set targets and at each stage of life, you pause and make an assessment of how far you’ve gone with the target. The ability to smile at yourself when making this assessment point to the fact that you’re doing well and that you’ve done well so far.
I hope we’re analyzing ourselves right now from the example I gave. Look at your life now at this point and know where you fall under, be sincere to yourself.
Now to the other angle, the negative part of the question, Is This Me?
This is the point where it is difficult to assess progress. A point where you look at yourself and you know you’re declining both in personality and targets
The point when you discover that instead of becoming a better Christian your fire is going down drastically, the point when all plans is crumbling before your eyes and there’s little or nothing you’re able to do about it.
The point where targets are far from realization. It wasn’t as if you plan for things to get bad, no, in fact, like every other person, you set goals, good and realistic goals but you can’t imagine how you came to this depressing point
The more you strive to become a better Christian, the more you become cold and lukewarm, the more you try to get that plan working, the more it isn’t.
At this point, you tend to look at yourself and not been able to recognize who you are anymore, you ask that question, Is This Me?
We all know what’s happening in Nigeria lately? Permit me to call it ‘Suicide Squad‘. Why? Because of the negative aspect of ‘Is This Me’
No wonder the preacher in Ecclesiastes call all the struggle vanity!
Get this Ambassadors, every struggle here on earth is insatiable because the more you get, the more you’ll want. I do not know which part of the ‘Is This Me’ you fall under but I want you to know that there’s need for self examination.
I know the sadness that comes with not realizing goals, in fact, I’ve been there before but hey dear, there’s hope because Christ lives. Don’t be depressed, don’t think of the rope or sniper, it’s meant for animals and reptiles not humans.
Your Christian life is fluenctuating, don’t give up, Christ still invites you for a closer walk with you. You want admission and it’s not forthcoming, God has a better plan for you, stay positive.
The picture of yourself you drew last year is far from what you are now, don’t be discouraged, God has a bigger picture, trust Him!!! I do not know which part of the ‘Is This Me’ you fall under but for both parts there are rules and principles to either maintain it or become better. Meaning you can move from the negative part to the positive and if the positive is not well handled, it can be drag one back to the negative part.
How do I handle the positive part of ‘Is This Me’ and make sure I don’t loose it?
- Don’t get overexcited. Yes, you can be happy but don’t let the success get into your head. The tendency to let pride in is very high if success is not managed. You begin to exalt yourself, believing it was your hardworking that got you the success, forgetting that your hard work might have been futile without the help of God.
2. Pride is destructive, so if you are not careful and allow it into your life, it had the strength to pull you down. There abound spiritual and circular examples of people who were ruined by pride. Daniel 4:30:33
3.Don’t shut the world out. In trying to build a business, finance, academics or other areas, don’t shut people out, don’t get too engrossed in your plans or success and refuse to relate with the world. Keep in touch with families, say hi to friends, GO TO CHURCH, attend decent social gatherings
- Don’t neglect one aspect for another. Some persons have made the mistake of loosing sight of an aspect of their lives when building another. When building a successful academic career, do not neglect your spiritual life, when building your finance do not neglect your marital or relationship life, if you do, yes you might be successful in that aspect but you’ll be unsatisfied. Many successful people out there are unsatisfied, unhappy and pitiable. Why? On their way up, they neglected the weighter matter!
Now, to the other angle. How do I handle the negative part of ‘Is This Me’?
The fact is this, everyone must go through this part and aspect. It’s not something you choose, it’s what the world hit you with
I’ve gone through that aspect before, in fact just last week, I had that aspect stroke me but I didn’t let it pull me down.
I had set a target for myself after my NYSC but I saw my target crumbling right before me, not because I didn’t plan well but because its just part of the reality of life, struggle you must face to become better
You might have gone through that before or going through it now but there’s hope.
I’ll give you just three basic steps to take when you see yourself at this point
- Go back to the drawing board.
Go back to God. It might be you didn’t consult him first before making that plan. Or you did but didn’t wait to get His approval or you felt He has approved but He was actually saying a No. Just go back to Him and tell Him your weakness, expose yourself to Him and let Him realise you cannot do it by yourself or strength. Ask Him to help and teach you the way to go.
Many at times, we just set goals as if we hold tomorrow in our hands. And funny enough, God has His way of humbling us
He’ll just be looking at you as you make the plans without him. Like the wise fool in the Bible, you ignorantly tell yourself, oh Blessing you’ve done well with your plans, let my soul relax and enjoy the dividends but alas, God reminds you and say my daughter, I own you and the future
Funny enough, it’s when things gets tough and bad for us that we remember God. The question is, did you plan with Him? Did you tell Him? What did He say? Or you just told Him for telling sake and didn’t wait for His reply? Go back my dear Ambassador, ask God and let Him speak!
2.Go back to your plans: make sure it is a realistic and achievable goals. It is good to read the whole Bible in a year but are you reading with understanding? If you’re not, you’ll get tired and stuck along the line. Don’t make plans or set targets that are too clumsy and demanding, set targets that your ability, strength, resources and personnel can cover.
Most times we over work ourselves that even when the success finally comes, we’re too exhausted to enjoy it. Know your strength and set targets to achieve it
Listen Ambassadors, you’re not competing with anyone. Don’t ever do the mistake to compare yourself with someone else, if you try that, you’ll fail drastically.
Everyone is unique in themselves. Your potentials are different from mine, that’s what makes you different. If I decide to be someone that I wasn’t created to be, am automatically signing failure for myself
I remember then in school that I decided to follow my friends to the library knowing fully well I don’t assimilate well in the library, it was God that saved me from failure that semester.
Know yourself and work according to who you are!
The reason you are achieving that target might be because you are doing copycat, change to your style my dear, do it your way
3. Relate with like minded people.
Talk with those who has same dreams with yours. Those who have gone ahead of you in building their dreams and are successful. Ask them about possible challenges and solutions, demand to hear their stories, read articles and journals about them, seek for interviews with them. This way, your mind is positioned to your goals and plans. You are not copying them directly but getting a pattern that will lead you to the right track!
Have someone you can confide in. Yes, they said it’s risky to trust someone but I believe you can still have someone you know can act as a push.
See, the truth is for every human, there is that point you feel tired, lazy and unwilling to continue but if you have a friend who knows that you have a target, he or she will act as a push in times when you’re down, they’ll encourage you when you feel exhausted.
Last week I was down casted, until I spoke with someone. When I poured my heart out, I felt relieved and better. No one is an island, we all need each other to survive
The reason many are taking their lives today is because they refusing to reach out for help. As we go through life struggles and challenges, we should be godly, wise and patient.
Failures, disappointments, hardship, are all part of life’s experiences. What matters is how you take them. As you look at yourselves from this day henceforth and ask that question, Is This Me? Don’t be scared or disappointed by the answer you get, just strive more, put God first, stay strong and positive.
I’ll end on this note
Nothing and no situation is worth you taking your own life, I hope this sink in!
You are precious, special and lovable! You will be great, successful and blessed
That situation will pass, don’t kill yourself for it
When that devilish whisper comes, please talk to someone. (I’m always available to hear you out)
Please stay alive and share your testimony not your suicide note!
Suicide is never an option
Staying Alive Is!
God bless you all.
Compiled by Cia Media Team.