DEALING WITH MASTURBATION
Good evening the Ambassadors, I received a message from someone close to me to treat the topic above. Below is the message👇🏼
Hello Ambassador David, please there’s a friend of mine who has been masturbating for more than 6 years and he finds it hard to stop. Please is there any remedy for him or suggestion you can recommend to him?
Firstly, I will like to give a brief overview about masturbation and how it occurs and then proofer solutions to it
Masturbating is from the heart. It is the body is responding to what has been stored in the heart.
Just imagine seeing nakedness of an opposite sex and trying to analyze how it looks by visualizing it. Seeing the nakedness, has already stored something in the heart and there is need to get it out fast before it becomes a strong hold within
The more we watch, the more it is being stored in us and the more it is stored, the more it is difficult for such person to stop.
Masturbation is like a seed that is left in the soil. The soil is your heart and when you leave a seed in the soil, it will surely germinate.
Same exactly as what you watch. It will germinate and if care is not taken, it will bring out it products, either as weeds or as fruits
You know, the seed is something you can’t see when it is inside the soil. And for the seed to manifest, it needs constant nutrient to feed on and while feeding, it grows and becomes a plant and physical manifestation begins to occur.
Same exactly as the heart. The heart can be seen but the heart is registering what it receives through the eyes
The seed can only grow based on what it receives, same as the heart can only grows based on what you feed it.
Feed it with junks and your life becomes junks. Feed it with good, and your life becomes good, feed it with evil and your life becomes evil.
He who masturbate is like a seed planted in the soil, awaiting nutrients for it to start manifestating.
You think the pleasure you derive as a result of you watching that porn or watching that silly movie will just go like that? No way sir and má, it won’t! It is being stored in your heart, as a matter of fac, your heart is the subconscious of you while your mind is the consciousness of you.
When you are watching the movies. Your mind is conscious and your mind is registering them and deleting them but you aren’t sensitive to the fact that your mind is a fractional part of your heart.
That is, as your mind is watching and deleting them, it is being stored bit by bit in your heart. Just like a mobile phone.
A mobile phone has an operating memory known as “ROM” and we also have full memory which is the memory bank (Capacity).
The Rom is part of the phone memory capacity that you have within it, Same as the heart and the mind.
How then does the brain works?
The Brain is exactly like a television. Like a screen.. It saves nothing within itself but can process information and transfer them faster to the mind.
Let me break it down a bit
I know you have a mobile phone
The mobile phone has a unique feature that works exactly the way man operates. But I will limit the important features that I need here as the Camera and the screen, speaker and the cameras serves as eyes to the phone while the speaker serves as the voice and sound of the phone.
Note this:- Camera is used to viewed or records things not within the phone while the screen is made to view things within the phone.
The only way images can be communicated into the phone is through the camera while the only object responsible for the viewing of object is the screen.
Your mobile phone has a camera, and whatever you record in that mobile phone is recorded directly inside the memory capacity of that phone.
Our outward eye act as the camera(External) and our inward eye act as the screen (internal) and both relay information to our body.
Same as you use your camera(external eye/physical eye) to record and store information on your memory card and you use your inner eye which serves as (screen) to watch what you have recorded (stored already in you).
Same exactly as man.. When you watch that sexual movie. Your brain is registering (recording) them and processing it directly to the mind.
The body gives a sign through reflex actions (our nerves, veins, and feelings, emotions) to pass message to the brain to work on the message it is receiving. The brain then begins to visualize (plays) it and send (transcribe/ convert) the information to the mind to act on…
And the mind begins to work on what it’s receive from the brain and begin to send feedback to the body to act (to express/display) the message it receives.
Note this. The body cannot receive any function without the mind. The mind is the key to all action in the body.
The same way our body cannot do without water is the same way the body cannot function properly without the mind..
To kill a man or destroy a man is to destroy iss mind. Because once the mind is destroyed, it becomes difficult for the body to function properly.
For anything to happen to a man. It must come from the mind and for any act man does, it must come from the mind because the mind is the key to man’s expression.
Didn’t you notice that before you type a word, you mind has already completed it.. Before you confess, you mind has already does it…
Even before you abuse or steal, your mind already registered it and your body performs the action.
You will imagine, many has many dance steps within their mind that they will like to execute but they were not able to deliver it because they mind isn’t connecting it With the body.
The mind is like a satellite dish which sends signals for the decoder of your gotv or dstv before it can be able to display your preferred channels.
The mind has the attributes to receives anything and then command the body to act on it.
Anyone who has access to your mind, has access to your body and can control your body to do whatever they want…
Battles are first won in the mind, before they are won in the physical realm.
There are some realities in our life which we will not overcome, if we don’t overcome the battles of our mind.
Which is why Jesus said, in the book of Matthew 5:28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Which means the acts has already being executed by the mind but awaiting the body for physical manifestation…
When the brain then process the message (sex video) to the mind, the mind send the message back to the body to act on. And immediately you begin to feel arouse.
Your sex organ begins to move. Why? Because your mind is receiving a message from the brain of a sexual(chemical related object) and your mind need to work on the information it receives and the mind send the information to the body and the body begins to secrete hormones within you, and the hormones begins to move in the body to various parts, and man begins to find expression, to express what your mind is feeding it or what he is perceiving within him,
You begin to think of different sex styles, kiss, sexual positions and different images are being formed in your brain and sent to your mind which reprocess it and send back to the body to act on.
While doing this. The mind is depositing into the heart. I will like the term it ‘downloading’ the content it receives from the body to the the mind bit by bit then to the heart.’
Till it matures and begins to manifest.
Just the way you download a game or video from online and it loads from 1% to 100%. At the stage of loading, you won’t see the full effect, which is at the stage of you watching it…
You enjoyed it as you are feeding your mind but it is loading bit by bit, then suddenly when it loads completely… It becomes independent and begins to work out itself within you.
Just like planting a seed in the soil. You add water and the likes to make it germinate, but at the stage of maturity, which is at the stage it has fully download, the seed becomes a trees and won’t need aids or support before it becomes to manifest itself. Same as the stage we all pass through…
*HOW THEN DO MASTUBATION OCCUR?*
It occurs like this, Remember you have watched the video or the act and your mind has registered them knowingly or unknowingly into your heart (Storage capacity/memory card). Then, within your heart are different folders that stores things in different orders, with different capacity and at different lenght.
So, your heart releases/uploads the saved video to your mind (the Dvd/media player), and immediately the mind receives this message, it send message simultaneously to your brain to display the image with your inner eye (Screen) and you begin to visualize it (visual display) exactly as if you are watching it from a television.
Just exactly the same way you record with your phone camera and you stare at the screen (inward eye) of the phone while recording and it is the same phone screen that you will use to watch the recorded video that you filmed through its camera (outward eye) same as man.
Then, your mind begins to act immediately on what it receives and your body begins to find expression of sexual urge and since the opposite sex isn’t available to display that act or meet that needs that your mind is asking for, you begin to satisfy that pleasure with thyself and begin to find pleasure within it, and you find it hard to stop.
the more you continue, the more it becomes a reflex action that you do consciously and unconsciously.
SOLUTIONS TO MASTUBATION.
- Confess your helplessness to God.
1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
- Seek physical and spiritual counseling. Heb 12:2 AKJV Looking to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
James 4:7-10 King James Version (KJV)
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
- You need to fight out mastubating habit from within. Proverbs 4:23
He who started masturbating before marriage and was thinking marriage is the cure will be shock, because marriage will never cure such and sex will not cure the drive.
It is individual habits of the past, that still haunts such fellow..
There are many times you will be alone even while in marriage.. Just like the period your wife just gave birth or at the point of consecration.
- You need to re-channel your mind into something more productive that will keep you more conscious of God and build you up more. What you need is to rechannel that energy out from sex or watching sexual oriented movies into something productive.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.
- You need to consecrate and rededicate yourself to God. This is key and vital. Leviticus 20:7
Avoid being alone. The reason such person can masturbate is because he is alone and less busy.
Such person should avoid being alone and being in a secluded area.
- He/she should also put on a new habit. One habit will kill others. Change what you watch. Pick a new favorite and become the best in it.
How will you kill masturbation when you don’t have something else to kill that drive?
It is like a jangle over pull or a swing that has two side… When one is high, the other is low, to bring that one down you need to replace the other side with something that will take your attention and take that drive from you..
- Pray more.There is nothing prayer can’t solve.Pray more. Study more. Fill your mind more with the word of God. With more ideas.
The best way to pray is to pray… The more you pray..
Most time while I am away from my beloved ones. What I use to do is to keep myself busy without leading to immorality or the likes is by filling my mind with ideas and the word of God which is the foundation to all things. When you study more on God’s word, that addiction leaves you and you become addicted to the Word of God.
I start doing research that will keep me busy and keep my mind off anything defiling
If you also can do something like this and more, you win mastubating every day.
Mind you, this list isn’t exhaustive enough.. Seek other guidance in which I trust HOLY SPIRIT as the best partner to help deal with it fully.
There is a saying that habits are built within 21 days and I also believe such will help him too.. if he can do it for 21 days consistency and with the help of spiritual assistance, he will be free indeed.
Tell him to make a personal commitment and not to analyze other lady. And he should not entertain any lady and no lady must visit him
He must consecrate himself and make himself responsible for his actions.