A lot of people jump into a relationship because they felt the spark, they felt the butterflies, they felt the longing but, without much thought on whether that is the relationship they truly wanted or whether the relationship could last. It is time we cut this bad habit of jumping in and out of relationships. Be mindful of your choices, and save your heart from another heartache by answering these questions.
- What do you look for in a partner?
It is very easy to fall in love with the good-looking, the nice and sweet, the smart and funny, the rich, the intelligent, or the mysterious individuals. However, if the qualities you’re looking for in a partner are only on the outward appearance, you’ll find yourself alone when things get rough. Look for the inner qualities that will support you and your relationship even when you lose your own sanity.
- What are your reasons for finding a partner?
Are you simply looking for someone to be with on lonely hours or are you looking for a lifetime partner? Your reasons will set the role that your partner will be playing on your relationship. If you only want your partner to be with you at certain times in a day while s/he wants to be with you every moment, conflicts will arise and it won’t be long til the relationship will be over.
- What is your level of maturity when it comes to handling relationships?
Maturity matters a lot when you want a long-term, or lifetime, relationship. There are always going to be obstacles and crossroads along the way that will challenge your commitment. If you’re mature enough to handle a relationship, you can make sound decisions and tough choices. You won’t easily get bothered with the little things like jealousy or time-management. A mature person knows when to keep fighting and when to let go.
- Can you differentiate a good relationship from the bad?
A good relationship is something that helps you grow into a better person. It is something that brings a positive change to your life and empowers you to do great things. Contrary to that, a bad relationship is something that drains all your positive energy. It is something that constantly hurt you either emotionally or physically, and makes you question your worth as a person. Nobody should be in a bad relationship. If you feel like you are in one, leave immediately and let go.
- Are you ready for marriage?
Some people get into a relationship without the thought of getting married. It may not be a big deal to some but, it matters when your partner wants to finally get married and you are not yet ready. You should know that marriage is always the destination of romantic relationships if not breakups. Don’t go wasting the time of your partner if you are not open to the idea of marriage. Let this principle of yours be known before getting into a relationship, or don’t get into a relationship at all.
We don’t want any more breakups after a long, sweet companionship. Before starting out another affair, let us make sure we know what we are doing and we already have a clear path of where we are going.