Meaning and Types of Love


Basically, there are different kinds of love. It is being divided into three (3) for us to know how it is used. The first one is:

  • The love for sexual passion – Eros love

    The Greeks first word for love is Eros, which English borrowed to create – "erotic". According to the Greeks, the word Eros means a need-centered love or desire based on attraction and fulfillment. Eros describes the aspect of relationship between a man and a woman that is like a magnet. Magnet has a drawing capacity, which attracts to any object that has the right characteristics. Men or women created by God has a part of them designed for attraction that is neither under their complete control nor capable of entirely controlling them against their will. Erotic love in marriage is blessed and encouraged by God. He even calls it holy. Sexual union offers a couple one of the most powerful ways to experience the oneness that the Bible refers to when it describes marriage. (See Genesis 2: 24-25, Proverbs 5: 15-19).

    God is not prude. He created sexual attraction and erotic love as a fundamental part of relationships between men and women.

  • The love for best friends – Phileo love

    This kind of love is also called friendship love. According to the Bible, it is called "companionship". Phileo love means sharing of time, hobbies, activities, home, games, and other aspects of fellowship, which is reciprocal. Eros looks at man and woman as lovers while phileo look at man and woman as best friends.

    Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the lord; rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.

    Phileo love involves doing life as friends, with loyalty and communication. It's about sitting down when you don't feel like, and going over the budget and making decisions. It's speaking the truth in love when you've been irritated or wounded. If Eros love is the spark that repeatedly ignites our passion, then it is the steady fuel that feeds our joy. Doing life together, not only as passionate lovers but as best friends, is at the core of genuine love, satisfying sex, and a lasting relationship. As much as Eros and phileo contribute to a healthy relationship, they need a third companion to bring depth, strength, and lasting character to lasting romance and friendship. That is while the most influential kind of love we can experience and express is sacrificial love – agape love

  • The love of sacrificial commitment – Agape love

    Agape love takes the initiative and energizes the other two kinds of love. Agape love gives even when the partner doesn't respond as hoped. It's giving and meeting the real needs of another and helping that person to become a better, more mature individual. It is selfless love.

    Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 8

Agape love is a God given, supernatural, and unconditional love. It is giving others what they need most when they deserve it the least. In agape, the relationship is not about you. It is not about your life or what you can get. It is how you can serve the other person. When you love this way, you won't be easily angered.




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