The first thing I wish to point out is that sweet marriage does not involve a total absence of conflict in marriage. This is because proper management of conflicts helps to achieve adjustments and well-adjusted couples mostly are the ones that enjoy sweet marriages.
This is because a conflict helps couples to adjust to each other and maladjustment is responsible for most crises in our marriages. So I pity men who subject their wives and prevent or not allow them to talk at home or those who think that their wives are good because they accept and do everything they said.
So one ingredient that makes for a sweet marriage is joint decisions making; there is always an understanding and a sense of belonging when couples carry each other along in certain decision-making. As a man, once you learn to carry your wife along in certain decision-making, certain conflicts we are seeing today in marriages will not be there.
It does not remove or reduce your ego as a man that your wife is carried along in certain decision-making. In fact, certain pitfall and crises are averted when both parties are involved in taking a decision in the family.
And as a woman, avoid taking and implementing certain decisions without first consulting your husband, even though, such may be for the mutual benefits of the marriage relation.
Love, oil that lubricates sweet marriage: when love among couples is absent, other negative issues will begin to arise. One thing that characterizes living thing is growth; couples should ensure that their love for each other is alive and growing. The stronger the love couples have for each other, the sweeter their marriage. The following are the ingredients that cause love to grow:
Trust and love for each other: the stronger the trust for each other the stronger will be the love for each other. The stronger couple loves each other the stronger they will trust each other. So couples should vow and strive never to betray the trust and love for each other. Going outside your marriage to engage in extramarital affairs is one thing that poison trust for each other.
Intimacy: Our wife/husband should be our best friend so learn to build intimacy with each other. Some men are generally guilty of not paying attention to their wives, they are always engulfed with their work and businesses that they always neglect their wives. Couples should learn to create time for their spouse as to build intimacy as it goes a long way to enjoying sweet marriage.
Ways to create intimacy: to create intimacy with each other, couples should learn to do certain things together such as bathing together, eating together as well as going to church or outings together. If I should ask, when last did two of you bathe and eat together?. Man, create time and be alone with each other quite often as to create intimacy.
Another way to enjoy sweet marriage is to ensure that we live up to our responsibilities. The reason there are cracks in many homes and marriages is because of the neglect and failures to live up to our responsibilities. For instance, it is the responsibility of a man to provide for his family up-keeps.
Men who are not living up to their responsibilities at home, enjoying sweet marriage will be a mirage. Women who fails in their responsibility of preparing food for their families but leaves it all alone for their house help may never enjoy sweet marriage to the fullness.
Couples who wish to enjoy sweet-marriage must ensure that they remove every element of selfishness. There are couples who are so selfish, the reason they are in that marriage relationships is what they hope to receive from their marriage and nothing else.
Once they are satisfied and happy, they are not bothered whether their spouses are satisfied and happy.To enjoy sweet marriage, never allow selfishness in your marriage.
Moreover, I use to counsel couples to study each other as to be able to interpret the mood of their spouse per time. When you know the mood of your spouse, when he/she is in a good mood/bad mood, it will go a long way to reducing conflicts.
Couples should equally do their best to keep their spouse happy for in doing so, they themselves will equally be happy. Of a truth, if you practice these simple steps, sweet marriage will surely be your portion.To your marital success, and see you enjoy sweet marriage. Shalom.